AS THE new semester starts, we meet new people in classes or clubs, and spend much time with them. However, we do not set our affections on all of them because everyone has a subjective standard in making friends. To see Yonseians' diverse thoughts on judging personal attractions, The Yonsei Annals asked some students, "What do you think is the most decisive factor when evaluating other people's charm?"
(Soph., Dept. of Business Admin.)
I think it is obvious that we are all attracted to people who have a decent appearance at first. Nevertheless, I feel uncomfortable when people speak with a grave look or a stony face, even if they are good-looking. I tend to be attracted to a friendly smile because it loosens up wariness and makes me open my heart more easily. People who smile and have a warm attitude always give energy to others around them.
(Jr., Dept. of Law)
I think the most significant factor for determining a person's charm is a good sense of humor. When people meet each other for the first time, they are stuck for words and even feel embarrassed. However, timely and appropriate humor has the power to melt away awkward atmosphere and break down the invisible wall between people. Moreover, I have a deeper relationship with people who are sincere at the same time.
(Sr., Dept. of Astronomy)
Favorable looks or speaking ability can be a factor of one's attractiveness because such things make me concentrate well on a conversation and give me instant pleasure. In the long run, however, I am attracted by people who have things that I do not have. They make up for my character flaws, and thus can be role models. I can have an opportunity to reflect on myself and become a better person thanks to them.
(Fresh., University College, Social Science)
I usually feel drawn towards people who express their emotions directly since I regard frankness as the most important value when getting along with friends. Some people hide their uncomfortable feelings and just keep them inside, not solving the problem at the moment. However, I think such an attitude does not change the situation and only makes other people frustrated.
(Soph., Dept of Cultural Anthropology)
How much passion one has towards life is my No.1 criterion of making friends. Passion does not simply mean an outgoing and sociable personality. When someone has a clear vision of life and makes steady progress pursuing his or her dream, I feel attracted and want to be friends with that person. It would be much better if the passionate person has similar hobbies with me because we can spend more time together.
(Prof., Dept. of Psychology)
Although there is no right answer for what the most effective element of personal attraction is, people generally take friendly and favorable attitude towards a "capable person". It does not mean, however, that we are attracted by some people who are perfect in every aspect. Capability in this context means how one excels in his or her field. In addition, people who arouse sympathy gain more affection because they seem more humane.